H.A.L.T is an acronym that stands for
H – Hungry
A – Angry
L – Lonely
T – Tired
It’s been said (or suggested) that it is not recommended to make decisions when one is in any one or more those states. For example, going grocery shopping when feeling hungry may cause us to buy more than what we intend to, or making relationship decisions when feeling angry.
Of the 4 things in HALT, the one item that is hardest to resolve is loneliness. Think about it, when hungry, we can go get some food, when angry, we can take a break by going for a walk, or talking/messaging to a supportive friend, and when tired, if possible, we can take a nap, or retreat from our activities when possible. These are things we can mostly without having another person present. Loneliness however, is the hardest to resolve by ourselves. The social impact that loneliness tugs at our hearts can lead to unhelpful self-narrative, feelings of isolation/abandonment, and depression and anxiety. Self soothing can help to relieve that pain, but nothing can relieve the pain of loneliness than being in the presence of trusted, supportive, and loving companion(s).